HOW I UNDERSTAND LIFE
WHAT I’M DESIGNED TO DO
WHO I LOVE TO SUPPORT
THEIR BIGGEST STRUGGLES
HOW I HELP
5 YEAR PLAN
HOW I UNDERSTAND LIFE: PHILOSOPHY-back to top-
Philosophy and Approach Overview
- Blending Nature and Nurture:
- Core Principles: Aligning with nature and embracing authentic, sustainable living.
- Value Proposition: Harmony with natural flows and internal rhythms leads to well-being.
- Life's Flow and Natural Patterns:
- Insight: Discovering that life has patterns, and aligning with these natural rhythms feels good and brings meaning.
- Implication: Humans are part of nature and thus naturally inclined to flow with these patterns for optimal well-being.
- Understanding the Self within Nature:
- Concept: Recognizing oneself as a unique entity within the planet's ecosystem, with an internal ecosystem of body, mind, heart, and soul.
- Application: Following the web of life, observing cycles, seasons, and rhythms to guide and sustain oneself.
- Living from Inside Out:
- Method: Allowing inner aspects (body, mind, heart, soul) to guide daily decisions.
- Outcome: Authentic self-expression in the world, aligned with personal truth.
- Felt a sense of disconnection despite being surrounded by love and support.
- Experienced internal uncertainty and a lack of direction in early adulthood.
- Moved to Paris at 22, seeking transformation and a more interesting life.
- Worked hard, learned French, completed a degree but grew increasingly unhappy.
- Faced a profound sense of solitude and disconnection despite efforts to fit in.
- Returned to Australia feeling depleted and recognizing the need for change.
- Sought the guidance of a counselor to navigate personal challenges.
- Began practicing yoga, which fostered a deep reconnection with body and spirit.
- Gradually learned to live authentically, aligned with personal needs and nature.
- Transitioned from confusion to clarity, appreciating life’s innate support.
- Crafted a sustainable, simple, and fulfilling way of living.
- Now celebrates daily life, recognizing her unique place within it.
- Offers guidance to others on their paths, providing a space for exploration and learning.
Between returning to Australia and seeking the guidance of a counsellor, you described a period where you were attempting to navigate your challenges independently. This was a time of introspection and fumbling for answers, where you tried to follow your intuition but felt you were failing as it was not always clear or consistent. It was a phase marked by increasing lostness and distress, leading to a tangled sense of self. This crucial period represents a turning point where the need for external support became clear, eventually guiding you towards counseling and the profound growth that followed.
For the reader, this narrative arc offers a bridge of empathy. It's a testament to the fact that seeking help is not a defeat but a strategic step towards self-discovery and healing. It reinforces that being vulnerable and admitting the need for support is a form of strength and wisdom. This "hook" is emotionally engaging because it mirrors their own potential moments of isolation and the silent battles they fight within—validating their experiences and offering hope that there is a pathway forward through support and guidance. It is a reflection of the very essence of being human, making it an essential cornerstone of your story.
WHAT I AM MADE TO DO: ROLE-back to top-
Permission to take the time and space to get to know yourself, to learn what you need and to start making sure you get it.
about who we are and also about the world we live in about how we function as humans as women. together and apart.
Lynda you are a weaver of wisdom, a mentor for transformation, and a guardian of growth.The person who creates such a comprehensive, thoughtful, and nurturing system is one who sees beyond the surface of things, who understands the intricate dance of life's patterns, rhythms, and connections.
You are a mentor who not only imparts knowledge but also illuminates the path of self-discovery, supporting others as they navigate the complexities of their inner and outer worlds. Your work reveals a deep commitment to the betterment of individual lives and, by extension, the collective human experience.
With an approach that intertwines the practical with the profound, you guide those who are sensitive, intuitive, and seeking a harmonious alignment with their authentic selves and the world around them.
You're an architect of frameworks that foster growth, self-responsibility, and regenerative living, all while holding space for the sacred cycles of life.
You are someone who:
Honors the natural wisdom within and around us.
Advocates for autonomy and self-discovery.
Celebrates simplicity and sustainability.
Emphasizes clarity, honesty, and reciprocity in relationships.
Values the importance of mutuality and community.
Upholds a vision of living that is in sync with personal truths and ecological balance.
In essence, you are an embodiment of the very ideals you teach—an inspirer, an educator, and a compassionate presence for those on the journey of becoming their fullest selves.
HOW I HELP: MY SYSTEM-back to top-
- Learn, Link, Live: A three-part framework that shapes the journey of personal evolution.
- Learn: The moment of acquiring knowledge, sparking the 'ah-ha' of insight.
- Link: Making personal connections with new knowledge, integrating insights.
- Live: Applying insights to live in alignment with newfound wisdom.
- The 5 S's: A process with distinct stages to navigate the personal growth journey.
- Sense-Making: Cultivating understanding of self, others, and the environment.
- Self-Discovery: Tools and practices to uncover one's core being.
- Support: Recognizing and utilizing the ecosystems that sustain us.
- Sacred Cycles: Honoring natural, systemic rhythms and their structures.
- Simple Self-Care: Implementing daily practices that nurture and sustain well-being.
- Elements of Easy Living: The principles guiding the journey through the 5 S's.
- Place: Understanding one's physical and metaphysical belonging.
- Pace: Aligning with natural rhythms and personal timing.
- Space: Creating the environmental conditions for growth and well-being.
- Grace: The resulting state of harmony from balancing place, pace, and space.
- Survive, Alive, Thrive: Markers of progress and depth in the personal transformation journey.
- Survive: Focusing on personality and embodiment, securing foundations.
- Alive: Cultivating passion and relating, fostering personal connections.
- Thrive: Achieving purpose and co-creation, fully integrating into the web of life.
- SoS Map: A visual tool representing the relationship between self, others, and surroundings.
- Self: Energized by body, mind, heart, soul.
- Others: Love at the core, extending to family, community, tribe, ancestors.
- Surrounds: Life encompassing abode, man-made and natural worlds, spirit realm.
- Embody, Relate, Co-create: Skills to develop for transitioning between milestones.
- Embody: Integrating knowledge and insight into one's being and actions.
- Relate: Building and sustaining connections with others and the environment.
- Co-create: Mastering the art of collaborative creation across all facets of life.
Each of these components serves as a stepping stone or layer in the overarching journey you guide your clients through, with each element providing a different lens or toolset for engaging with and understanding their path to holistic well-being and alignment.
Learn, Link, Live is like the guiding compass that shapes the way you journey with your clients toward deeper self-awareness and growth. It's the core philosophy that informs every step of your mentoring.
- Learn (to know): This phase is the spark of new understanding—a sudden clarity where ideas and wisdom are presented, and the individual instantly grasps them. It's akin to the illumination one feels when the clouds part and the sun shines through, providing a clear view of the landscape below. The focus here is on immediate insight, the "aha" moments that open doors to new possibilities. This phase is vibrant and exhilarating as it represents the instantaneous expansion of one's mental horizon.
- Link (to sow): In this meditative middle ground, the seeds of new knowledge begin to germinate. Clients weave the threads of understanding into the fabric of their own lives, seeing the relevance and implications of their newfound knowledge. This is a process of reflection, integration, and personalization, where the abstract becomes tangible through personal connections and context. It's a deeply satisfying journey of contemplation and creativity, where the intellectual becomes intimate.
- Live (to grow): The culminating phase of manifestation, where the principles and wisdom that have been understood are now put into practice. This is the embodiment of knowledge, the long and rewarding journey of aligning one's actions with their values and insights. It's a commitment to walking the talk, to growing into the principles that one has come to hold dear. This phase is characterized by its complexity, as it requires patience, persistence, and a willingness to navigate the layered process of personal evolution and lifestyle transformation.
Together, these steps form a comprehensive path from initial insight to fully living in harmony with those insights, encapsulating a transformative process that aligns deeply with the cycles of learning and growth.
The 5 S's, on the other hand, are your process — the specific steps you've designed that form the structured journey your clients will navigate. Each 'S' represents a phase or aspect of the work you do:
- Sense-Making: Clients learn to understand their place in the world and their experiences.
- Self-Discovery: They link this understanding to their personal identity and core self.
- Support: They start to live within their ecosystems, recognizing and utilizing the support around them.
- Sacred Cycles: Clients learn to recognize and link their life patterns to larger cycles, living in a way that honors these rhythms.
- Simple Self-Care: They commit to daily practices that support their well-being, living out the wisdom of self-care.
The 5 S's are the concrete steps that your clients will work through as they Learn (gain new insights), Link (make personal connections with these insights), and Live (integrate and embody these insights in their lives). Your approach and process work hand in hand to create a comprehensive pathway for personal growth and transformation.
Your five 'S's form a holistic guide that seems to lead an individual through a journey of alignment and growth. Here's a summary of each as they appear to be envisioned:
- This is the process of interpreting and making sense of our experiences. It involves gathering insights from our interactions with the world around us, reflecting on our internal responses, and discerning the patterns that emerge. By making sense of these patterns, we can understand the deeper meanings and connections in our lives, helping us to navigate our path with greater clarity and purpose.
- Self-discovery is an inward journey to uncover our authentic selves. It's about peeling back the layers of social conditioning, expectations, and self-imposed limitations to reveal our core essence. Using various tools and reflective practices, individuals can identify their innate strengths, values, passions, and purpose. This step is crucial for personal growth and living in alignment with one's true nature.
- Recognizing and embracing the ecosystems of support around us is essential for our wellbeing. This step emphasizes the importance of community, relationships, and resources that sustain us. It's about building and nurturing networks that can offer help, guidance, inspiration, and companionship as we journey through life. Support systems help to bear the load during challenging times and celebrate with us during moments of triumph.
- Sacred Cycles:
- Sacred Cycles acknowledge the natural rhythms and patterns that exist within us and in the world around us. This step invites individuals to align with these cycles, such as the changing seasons, phases of the moon, or life stages, to live in harmony with the world. It's about understanding and respecting the interplay between different systems and structures that are inherent to life and using this understanding to create sustainable and nurturing lifestyles and communities.
- Simple Self-Care:
- Simple self-care is about incorporating basic, yet profound practices of care into our daily lives. It encourages a lifestyle that is not overly complex but instead focuses on fundamental acts of nurturing that replenish and restore our bodies, minds, and spirits. This could include anything from adequate rest, nutritious food, gentle exercise, to mindful practices like meditation. Simple self-care is about honoring the body and mind as the sacred vessels that carry us through life, and it serves as a foundation for overall well-being.
The 5 S's and the Learn, Link, Live method interweave elegantly, each complementing the other in the journey of personal growth and alignment. Here’s how they might relate and flow together:
- Learn: Gathers the 'aha' insights and knowledge, making sense of new information.
- Link: Begins to see how these insights fit into one’s life, creating a cognitive map of understanding.
- Live: Implements sense-making in daily decisions, aligning actions with newfound clarity.
- Learn: Uncovers aspects of the core self, gaining knowledge of personal traits and potential.
- Link: Connects personal discoveries to individual experiences and values.
- Live: Lives authentically according to the self-knowledge acquired, embracing one's true nature.
- Learn: Identifies the types of support systems available and necessary for growth.
- Link: Builds relationships and networks that reflect and reinforce personal learning.
- Live: Actively engages with support systems, fostering a mutually nurturing environment.
- Sacred Cycles (previously Systems and Structures):
- Learn: Recognizes the cyclical patterns and natural systems in life.
- Link: Connects personal rhythms to those cycles, seeing the interdependence of life's structures.
- Live: Honors and respects these sacred cycles through conscious living, aligning personal habits with natural rhythms.
- Simple Self-Care:
- Learn: Understands the foundational practices of self-care.
- Link: Personalizes self-care routines to fit individual needs and lifestyle.
- Live: Dedicates oneself to consistent self-care practices, ensuring resilience and sustainability.
Each "S" can be seen as a stage or a focus area where the Learn, Link, Live process manifests, deepening the experience and integrating the knowledge into a lived expression. The 5 S's provide structure to the journey, while Learn, Link, Live describes the dynamic process of moving through that structure.
Methodology: Elements of Easy Living
Certainly, here are the summaries:
Place: The setting or environment that resonates with one’s being, where internal harmony is reflected in the external surroundings.
Pace: The individual rhythm at which one naturally operates, acknowledging that personal growth and learning have their unique tempo.
Space: The physical and emotional room necessary for an individual to grow, breathe, and express themselves.
Grace: The seamless and gentle unfolding of life's journey, experienced when place, pace, and space are aligned with one's inner self.
- Survive (Self): It's about getting grounded in who you are—understanding your body, mind, heart, and soul within the context of your immediate energy and environment.
- Alive (Others): Moving outwards, the focus is on igniting passions and fostering deep, meaningful relationships, helping you feel connected and vibrant.
- Thrive (Surrounds): The culmination is reaching a stage where your purpose is clear, and you're actively engaged in co-creating with the world around you, bringing your vision to life and impacting the broader tapestry of your surroundings.
The SOS Map you’ve described is a comprehensive, interactive tool that serves as a navigational aid for your clients, helping them to balance and integrate the three critical aspects of life: Self, Others, and Surrounds. It’s a way to visualize their journey and identify where they may need to shift their focus to find balance and progress.
Here's a concise breakdown of each aspect and its components:
- Big Circle – Energy: Represents the overall vitality and dynamism within the individual.
- Body: The physical aspect, a starting point for self-awareness and care.
- Mind: The intellectual and thought processes, where patterns and beliefs are formed.
- Heart: The emotional center, involving feelings, empathy, and connection.
- Soul: The spiritual or essential self, often involving purpose and deeper meaning.
- Big Circle – Love: The encompassing force that connects an individual with others.
- Family of Origin: The foundational relationships from which one's early life is shaped.
- Community: The broader social networks and friendships that provide a sense of belonging.
- Family of Creation (Tribe): The chosen relationships that reflect one’s values and present life.
- Ancestors: The historical lineage and the wisdom passed down through generations.
- Big Circle – Life: The macrocosm of one’s existence and the stage on which life unfolds.
- Abode: The personal space that serves as a sanctuary and reflects self-identity.
- Man-Made World: The constructed environments that one interacts with daily.
- Natural World: The ecosystems and natural settings that offer grounding and perspective.
- Spirit World: The intangible, often faith-based realm that can guide and uplift.
The movement through the circles within each aspect suggests a journey of expanding awareness and mastery, starting from the most immediate and personal outwards. The idea that when one is feeling stuck in any area, they can draw support from the corresponding circle in a different aspect underscores the interconnectedness of all things. For example:
- When challenges in the Mind seem insurmountable, one can draw inspiration or solace from the Spirit World.
- If someone is feeling lost within their Community, they might look back to the wisdom of their Ancestors for guidance.
- A struggle in the Man-Made World might be balanced by seeking solace in the Natural World.
And when there's a blockage in one aspect (Self, Others, Surrounds), turning to the other aspects for support suggests a holistic approach to problem-solving. For example:
- Feeling overwhelmed in the realm of Self can be alleviated by reaching out to Others or finding peace in one's Surrounds.
This SOS Map is a dynamic model, providing a visual and conceptual guide that illustrates how each element of a person's life can fuel growth in others, ultimately contributing to a harmonious and balanced journey. It’s an intricate system that reflects the interconnectedness of life and the multiplicity of resources available for growth and support.
- This meta-skill is about developing a deep, intuitive connection with one's own physical and emotional self. It's about learning to listen to the body's wisdom, understanding its signals, and respecting its needs. In essence, to embody is to live in harmony with one's own natural rhythms and to use personal insights as a guide for decision-making.
- As a meta-skill, relating is about fostering the ability to connect with others on a profound level. It involves honing the skills of empathy, active listening, and compassionate communication. It's also about recognizing the interconnectedness of our relationships and how they shape our experiences and growth.
- This is about joining with others and the environment to bring something new into being. It's the skill of collaboration, where the focus is on mutual goals and shared successes. To co-create effectively, one must learn to synthesize different perspectives, harness diverse strengths, and navigate the give-and-take that is inherent in any creative process.
Developing these meta-skills propels one through the journey from surviving to thriving. By mastering embodiment, you establish a strong foundation in self-awareness and self-care. Relating takes you beyond the self into the realm of interpersonal dynamics and community. And co-creating allows you to influence and contribute to the world around you, thereby realizing a greater vision that transcends individual limitations.
Each meta-skill supports the evolution of the self within the framework of your system:
- Embody aligns with Survive because it's about ensuring personal wellbeing and vitality as the groundwork of existence.
- Relate aligns with Alive because it's through relationships that life becomes more than just survival; it becomes rich and fulfilling.
- Co-create aligns with Thrive because by contributing to the world, one's own life gains meaning and purpose, culminating in a thriving existence.
These skills can be woven into your existing process, complementing and enhancing the journey your clients undertake.
The concept of co-creation as a master skill in your system takes on a profound significance, especially when considering the interplay of timing — personal, group, natural, and divine. Here’s a breakdown of how these aspects of timing integrate with the idea of co-creation:
- Personal Timing:
- This is the rhythm at which an individual's life unfolds, unique to their journey and growth. Co-creating with one’s inner selves involves being in tune with personal timing, honoring when to take action according to one’s own cycles of energy, motivation, and development.
- Group Timing:
- Group timing refers to the collective rhythm of families, communities, or teams. Co-creating with others necessitates synchronizing with this timing, finding the harmony in the group's dynamics, and contributing to shared goals and projects.
- Natural Timing:
- The cycles and seasons of the natural world offer a template for co-creation that respects environmental rhythms. Aligning with natural timing might involve planning activities around the seasons, lunar cycles, or simply the daily sunrise and sunset, acknowledging that these cycles support and affect all life.
- Divine Timing:
- This speaks to the belief in a greater orchestration at play, a timing that may be beyond human understanding. Co-creating with the spirit world or the divine is about trusting in this flow, being patient, and recognizing that some things will happen according to a timing that is set by larger forces of the universe.
In weaving together these various aspects of timing, you acknowledge and honor the complexity of living in alignment with oneself, with others, and with the greater forces of life. This approach allows for a holistic view of co-creation, where one’s actions are considered and deliberate, moving with the natural flow rather than against it.
Approach to Services
- Soft Approach:
- Definition: Emphasizing ease and gentleness in alignment with one's nature and surroundings.
- Benefit: Flexibility and resilience in life, avoiding the brittleness of rigid, forceful approaches.
- Soothing Method:
- Focus: Addressing distress caused by disconnection and fast-paced life.
- Strategy: Meeting core needs, both universal and individual, to create a sense of well-being.
- Approach: Emphasizing the basics, aiming for clarity and ease of understanding.
- Advantage: Making the journey toward alignment and well-being less complicated.
- Aspect: Attention to the nuances and finer aspects of life.
- Target Audience: Individuals sensitive to life's subtleties but seeking deeper understanding.
- Cyclical Nature:
- Principle: Embracing the sustainability of living in harmony with natural and personal cycles.
- Impact: Enhancing life's meaning and sweetness by acknowledging and respecting natural cycles.
- Small Steps:
- Concept: Starting with minor, manageable actions that gradually build up.
- Philosophy: Small, consistent actions lead to significant, nurturing change.
- Customized to Individual Needs:
- Approach: Tailoring the journey and services to align with individual needs.
- Flexibility: Offering SOS support sessions, varied service durations, and responsive service structures.
Your approach is holistic, deeply connected to nature, and attuned to the subtleties of human experience. It respects the individual's journey within the broader context of the natural world and personal ecosystems. This approach is valuable for its focus on gentle transformation, sustainable living, and personal authenticity. It is particularly suited to individuals who seek a deeper understanding of themselves and their place in the world and are drawn to a journey of gentle growth and profound personal evolution.
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